If ‘Frumpy’ Feels Like Your Biggest Style Fear … this is for you
Some days, getting dressed feels like a struggle.
You stare at your wardrobe and think, “I just don’t want to feel frumpy.”
If that hits home … you’re not alone.
Let’s talk about why naming what you don’t want to feel can be the key to unlocking your true style.
We’re often told to chase style goals like polished or modern.
But when I ask clients, “How do you not want to feel?” the answers come fast:
Frumpy. Boring. Irrelevant. Overlooked.
These “don’t wants” offer contrast and clarity.
When you say “I don’t want to feel frumpy,” what you’re really saying is:
“I want to feel like myself again … just the updated version.”
The “Frumpy” feeling is a red flag and compass
When someone says, “I don’t want to look frumpy,” it’s rarely just about clothes.
It means:
I’ve lost touch with my style and don’t know where to start.
I don’t want to feel invisible or outdated.
I want to be seen … not just for the roles I play, but for who I really am.
That’s not shallow. That’s real.
And the good news?
You don’t need a whole new wardrobe to shift this. You just need to start listening to what your feelings are trying to tell you.
So … how do you get there?
If you’re nodding along … here’s how to begin turning that “ugh” into clarity:
1. Use What You Don’t Want to Discover What You Do
If you don’t want to feel frumpy … maybe you want to feel fresh.
If you don’t want to feel boring … maybe you crave expression.
If you don’t want to feel uptight … perhaps relaxed and intentional is your style.
Language matters - when you can name it … you can shape it.
2. Stop Dressing for a Past (or Future) Version of Yourself
Frumpy often shows up when we dress a version of ourselves that no longer fits … pre-kids, pre-pandemic, or “someday” you.
Clothes that sort-of fit don’t work. Pieces waiting for “when I lose the weight” don’t work.
Dress the you that exists right now … the one who needs to feel good today.
3. Let Go of the “Good Enough” Pieces
We all have them … those clothes that technically fit, but never feel right.
They’re the jeans you keep tugging at or the sweater that always leaves you underwhelmed.
Frumpy often sneaks in when we settle for “it’ll do.”
Start paying attention to what you avoid wearing … it could be your wardrobe is telling you it’s time to let go and make space for better.
4. Start Small … (but make it count)
You don’t need to figure out your whole style overnight … start with just one area of your life where you want to feel more like you.
Maybe it’s your everyday errands or what you wear when working from home.
Choose one outfit that makes you feel like you’re showing up … then build from there.
Style clarity doesn’t come from a total overhaul … it comes from one aligned choice at a time.
You deserve more than “Frumpy”
You deserve better than feeling invisible or out of sync with yourself.
You deserve to feel:
Present … not overlooked
In the room … not hiding
Connected … not stuck in someone else’s version of you
So if all you can articulate right now is what you don’t want to feel — that’s more than enough.
It’s a beginning and a guide and where true style begins.
Want help translating your “Don’t Wants” into a style that feels like you again?
That’s where I come in — ready to start?
Two Classics, One Unexpected Power Pairing for Autumn
As we start thinking about Autumn and move from Summer, don’t store away your silk scarf … bring it into the next season with you … along with your trench (if you’ve chosen to invest) and a little creativity.
Some style pairings just work.
A trench coat and a silk scarf are two wardrobe icons that, when styled together … elevate even the simplest of outfits.
After the great response to my How To Style A Scarf blog, I’m excited to share my top ways to elevate your trench coat with a silk scarf this Autumn.
Whether you’re heading to brunch, commuting to work or just walking through your day wanting to feel like you … one of these will fit your mood … I promise.
And don’t worry … your silk scarf isn’t going anywhere. It’s still making a strong statement into Spring/Summer 2026, with Copenhagen Fashion Week runways showing it styled effortlessly with almost everything.
Here are some of my favourite looks on how to style a trench coat with a silk scarf … some classic and some with a modern twist.
Give one or two a try and watch how not just your outfit but your whole energy transforms.
The Effortless Tie-Back
Fold into a triangle and tie at the back of the neck, this back-to-front style feels laid-back yet refined … easy and made for days when you want to look put-together without trying too hard.
The Belted Twist Scarf
Swap out your trench belt for a bold silk scarf. Knot it at the side or leave undone … it adds a playful, unexpected pop that turns a classic coat into a statement.
The Bag Tie
Wrap it around your handbag handle. It ties your outfit together and adds a touch of personality and movement when you walk.
The Windy Day Wrap
Wrap around your head and tie under the chin, classic and practical … perfect for breezy autumn days with a touch of vintage flair.
The Epaulette Detail
This one’s for the fashion insider. Thread your scarf through the shoulder epaulette of your trench coat … the scarf becomes an unexpected accent … subtle and a little bit undone in the best way.
Classic Neck Knot
Tie it at your neck and tuck it under the collar. Chic and timeless—this look never fails.
Bandana Neck Style
Fold the scarf into a triangle and tie it at the front of your neck … adds a subtle edge and works with open or closed trench styling.
Image sources: Pinterest (original creators unknown)
Final Thought
A trench coat gives structure. A silk scarf gives story.
Put them together and you create style that’s both timeless and uniquely yours.
The beauty of these different looks is that they can shift with your mood … from structured to soft.
So next time you throw on your trench and scarf … try styling them a little differently … you might be surprised how a small change can shift not just your outfit but your whole mood.
And I would love to know: how do you make this classic combo your own?
How to Style a Scarf: 10 inspiring ideas curated by a Personal Stylist
From chic neck knots to bold waist wraps … here’s how a scarf transforms any summer wardrobe … by spending very little.
The scarf.
It’s light, simple, sometimes overlooked and yet somehow … always just right.
You might think of scarves as a winter accessory, but let me tell you: in summer, the scarf becomes something entirely different.
It’s colourful, playful, expressive and incredibly versatile.
Whether I’m heading out in jeans and a tee or wrapping up at the beach … a scarf is the piece that transforms an outfit with minimal effort.
And the best part? You don’t need a big budget to enjoy it.
Why I love the Summer scarf …
It’s versatile – One item, at least ten different looks!
It adds colour + personality – Even to the simplest of outfits.
It’s affordable – Style doesn’t have to be expensive.
It expresses a mood – Soft and romantic? Bold and bright? There’s a scarf for that.
Here are my 10 favourite ways to wear and style a scarf this summer … some timeless and some a little unexpected.
Try one or two and see how your outfit (and energy) shifts.
1. The Parisian Neck Knot
Fold a small scarf into a triangle and tie it loosely at your neck (think: café, sunglasses and a croissant)
2. In Your Hair
Tie it around a low ponytail or low bun … it’s soft, feminine, and works even on messy hair days.
3. The Head Bandana
Fold a larger scarf into a triangle and wear it bandana-style across your head with ends tied just above the nape of your neck … relaxed and ideal for beach days or breezy walks.
4. On Your Bag
Tie it around the handle of your tote or crossbody for a pop of colour and personality … easy and instant.
5. As a Belt
Thread a scarf through your belt loops or tie it around your waist over a dress … flattering and adds movement.
6. The Statement Waist Wrap
Wrap a longer scarf around your waist, over jeans, trousers or even a skirt and knot it like a sash … brings colour and shape … looks beautifully styled but effortless.
7. As a Top
A large square scarf becomes a gorgeous strapless or halter-style top. Perfect for beach holidays, garden parties, or sunset cocktails.
8. Wrapped Around Your Wrist
Tie a small scarf around your wrist, letting the ends drape or tuck … a fun alternative to bangles.
9. Around the Ankle
With cropped jeans and mules or sandals, a small scarf around the ankle adds an unexpected twist.
10. Tied Around a Shoulder / Body
Drape a long, lightweight scarf over one shoulder—then tie it diagonally across your body, like a soft sash … instantly transforms into something elevated and eye-catching.
Image sources: Pinterest (original creators unknown)
Stylist’s Tip
For summer … go for lightweight materials … silk, cotton voile, or modal. They breathe, drape beautifully, and won’t feel heavy.
Bold prints, florals, stripes, or polka dots all work.
And remember: it’s not about perfection—it’s about play. These little pieces are a chance to try something new, add a spark of joy, or even surprise yourself with how creative you can be.
Final Thought …
Style isn’t just about the clothes. It’s about how you feel in them.
The scarf is a small thing, yes—but holds so much possibility. It can change the shape of your outfit, the colours you wear, the mood you step into.
It’s fun. It’s feminine and in most budgets.
So go ahead—open that drawer or treat yourself to a new one - Tie it, twist it, wrap it, wear it your way.
And if you try any of these styles, tag me —I’d truly love to see.
P.S. Want to try some of these looks yourself? I’ve put together a special Scarf Edit featuring the standout pieces of the season—bold prints, beautiful textures and colours that will instantly lift any wardrobe.
Need even more inspiration? Check out my curated Pinterest board
What your holiday wardrobe is trying to tell you
A question that’s come up lately in conversation with clients and friends …
“Why do I feel braver with my style when I’m on holiday?”
Honestly, I feel it too … thought about it a lot and I think your wardrobe is trying to tell you something important.
There’s something about stepping out of your day-to-day surroundings that unlocks a part of you that’s bolder … more expressive, more experimental, more free.
You pack the bright earrings you wouldn’t wear at home. You buy something you would only consider wearing on holiday or reach for that cut-out dress that’s lived at the back of your wardrobe all year.
You let your shoulders breathe. You lean into colour.
I hear how women come alive through clothes when they’re away on holiday. It's not just about sunshine or a shift in climate — it’s about permission.
On holiday, we give ourselves space to be more ourselves.
We quieten the little voices that usually ask: “Is this too much?”, “Will I stand out?”, “ What will people think?”
Instead … we choose joy … we choose ease … we choose possibility.
We dress differently when we’re away on holiday and not just because it’s hot.
When we’re away, we also step out of roles. We’re not just mum, manager, partner, friend. We’re not locked into our usual schedules. We’re not bumping into neighbours or sitting in the same meeting rooms.
And with that space … something opens up.
Clothing becomes playful again.
Styling becomes intuitive.
That side of you that wants to feel stylish, confident, and comfortable finally gets the spotlight.
But here’s the thought I keep coming back to and the one I often offer to my clients when they return home:
What if you didn’t leave that version of you at the airport or in your suitcase?
What if the version of you who felt bold and beautiful in that red dress … could walk confidently into your office, brunch with friends or do the school run just as she is?
The style you wear on holiday is not a costume … it’s a clue.
It’s a signal.
It tells you what you really want from your clothes: fun, freedom, femininity, drama, lightness, movement, whatever it is for you.
That feeling? It’s not location bound.
That magic isn’t in the miles … it’s in the mindset.
One of my favourite style exercises and something I often encourage clients to try … is this:
Choose one “holiday” piece and weave it into your everyday wardrobe this week.
It could be:
The statement necklace you always save for “special dinners”.
The loose printed trousers you think only work poolside.
The dress you only wear on holiday but always feel incredible in.
Let that piece act as a gentle rebellion against playing small with your style.
A daily reminder that clothes are for you — not just for occasion, location, or approval.
So, tell me …
Do you notice a shift in your style when you’re away on holiday?
Do you feel more adventurous, more comfortable in your skin, more open to trying things?
If so, why do you think that is?
I would love to know — because when we start noticing these things, we can start reclaiming them. Bringing those pieces of ourselves home and dressing in a way that reflects who we really are — not just where we are.
And if you're not sure where to start? I’m here
Let’s talk about how to translate your “holiday self” into everyday confidence — wardrobe first.
Why invest in a Holistic Personal Stylist?
There’s a difference between simply getting dressed and truly feeling seen.
If you’ve ever stood in front of your wardrobe, surrounded by clothes that no longer feel like you, feeling overwhelmed by what should be a simple act — you are not alone.
Because there is so much more to style.
It’s about how you feel in your skin, how you show up in the world and how aligned you are with the woman you’re becoming.
It’s about you.
What does Holistic Personal Styling even mean?
Holistic styling is a soulful, intuitive approach to personal style that goes beyond age, body proportions, colouring and trends.
It’s about understanding your story, your energy, your lifestyle and how all of that weaves into what you wear each day.
I dive deep into the connection between your inner world — your mindset, emotions & identity and your outer expression through clothing.
My goal is simple: to help you bring your inside and outside into alignment.
To style you from the inside out.
When your inner truth and outer expression harmonise … you don’t just look good — you feel good and whole.
How do you want to feel when you get dressed?
This is the heart of Holistic Styling.
Do you want to feel confident, grounded, energised, or simply more like yourself?
I ask: What season of life are you in?
Are you dressing for who you are today or a past version of yourself?
Does your wardrobe support the woman you’re growing into or tie you to someone you’ve outgrown?
Because our clothes carry stories and sometimes … those stories no longer serve us.
Your style should evolve as you do
Life changes—motherhood, career shifts, healing from loss, reinvention and yet, many wardrobes stay stuck in time … holding on to identities we’ve outgrown.
A Holistic Personal Stylist helps you gently release what no longer fits — physically, emotionally, energetically and curate a wardrobe that reflects your present and future self.
Not your past.
Not the version of you … you think you should be.
But the woman you truly are becoming.
Why work with a Holistic Personal Stylist?
Because how you feel in your clothes shapes how you show up in life.
Maybe you’re navigating a transition — a new chapter that your wardrobe hasn’t yet caught up with or perhaps you feel disconnected from your clothes, your body, your reflection.
Investing in a Holistic Stylist isn’t about a makeover. It’s about alignment.
You don’t have to shrink yourself or wait until you “feel ready.”
You can start now … with someone walking beside you with compassion and insight.
What to expect from my Holistic Styling approach …
My approach is gentle, collaborative and deeply personal.
As a Holistic Stylist I’m not here to “fix” or force you into a box … it’s about uncovering your essence and reflecting that through how you dress.
Working together, we’ll …
Clarify how you want to feel and show up every day.
Explore your style through the lens of your values, energy & lifestyle.
Analyse your colour characteristics & preferences.
Understand your body proportions and how you prefer to dress them.
Edit your wardrobe with intention and compassion … releasing what no longer serves you and curating a wardrobe that supports your energy, lifestyle and vision.
Connect you with your authentic self … selecting pieces that speak to your next chapter.
This work is about more than clothes … it’s about the quiet confidence that comes from dressing in a way that honours you.
Because it’s never just about what you wear … it’s about how you feel when you wear it.
This is not vanity … it’s self-care
There’s often guilt tied to investing in your appearance … as if caring for the outside makes you less deep or thoughtful.
But what if dressing intentionally is actually a profound act of self-love?
Ready to discover your authentic style?
Imagine feeling empowered, confident and truly the best version of yourself when dressing … not just on special occasions, but every day.
This is what Holistic Styling offers you: a wardrobe and a relationship with yourself that evolve, support and celebrate the woman you are and the woman you’re becoming.
Not when life slows down, not when you’ve lost the weight, not when you feel more confident.
But right now … as you are.
I’m here when you’re ready.
When you feel like you have nothing to wear...
Let me guess — you’ve opened your wardrobe, stood there for 5, maybe 10 minutes, and said it again:
“I have nothing to wear.”
You question everything.
And here's the thing... you're not alone.
We’ve all been there.
But … can I tell you something you might not expect from a Personal Stylist?
It's not about the clothes.
Really — it’s not.
You probably have plenty of options / outfits hanging in front of you. But when nothing feels right, when every option feels off, when the mirror just reflects a big, flat meh... that’s not a wardrobe problem.
And this is the part we rarely talk about:
You’re not just trying to get dressed.
You’re trying to feel something / reflect a mood.
A little more grounded.
A little more confident.
A little more like yourself again.
When your wardrobe can’t meet you there — when there’s a gap between what you have and how you feel — that’s when you tell yourself, “I have nothing to wear.”
But what you really mean is:
"I can’t find anything that reflects me / my mood today."
We tend to blame ourselves or our style when this happens.
“I need a new wardrobe.”
“I have no style anymore.”
“Why can’t I figure out what to wear?”
But here’s the truth:
This isn’t a sign that you lack clothing.
It’s a sign that you’re disconnected — from your mood, your intention, your energy.
It’s like trying to tune a radio but every station is just a little bit off. Nothing quite lands.
And when you can’t feel the right energy from your outfit, nothing you put on will feel “enough.”
So … how do you close that gap?
You don’t rush to fix it with shopping.
You don’t force yourself into something that doesn’t feel aligned.
You reconnect.
What you're really saying in that moment of “nothing to wear” is...
"I’m not sure how I want to feel today."
Or maybe even… “I don’t feel like myself.”
And that’s okay. It happens.
Start by asking yourself:
How am I feeling?
How do I want to feel today?
What do I need more of? (Softness? Strength? Confidence? Comfort? A little playfulness?)
What outfit can help me move in that direction?
Then go into your wardrobe with intention — not pressure.
You’re not picking the "perfect" outfit — you're choosing something that gently aligns with your mood and needs.
Start with one piece that feels right — a cosy knit for comfort, a sharp blazer for focus, a pop of colour to boost your mood.
Let that piece lead the way. It’s about choosing pieces and outfit that meet you where you are or gently move you toward where you want to be.
This isn’t about dressing for who you think you should be — it’s about dressing to support who you are and how you want to move through your day.
Remember … true style doesn’t start in your wardrobe …
It starts with you.
How you feel. What you need. Your mood.
The story you and your body is telling today.
Because when you are connected with yourself — when your energy aligns — the clothes / outfits fall into place.
Effortlessly.
So … if you're standing in front of your wardrobe tomorrow and nothing feels right … stop searching for the “perfect” outfit.
Look inward first.
The outfit will come.
Let getting dressed be a small act of care and about feeling centred in your skin.
Try it!
Let me know here
The Trench Coat that changes everything: A Personal Stylist’s Ultimate Guide
You know those wardrobe pieces that don’t just clothe you, they carry you?
The trench coat is that piece.
It's your first impression and everyday armour.
You throw it on …
You know the feeling …
You instantly feel polished and pulled-together.
It’s your go-to-layer for unpredictable weather.
Your silent style statement.
The right one wraps you in quiet confidence, effortless style and a little bit of mystery even over jeans & tee.
It’s roomy enough for layers yet tailored enough to feel intentional.
That’s the magic of the perfect trench coat.
It’s never just a coat—it’s a mood.
BUT … where do you start?
If you're like me and ready to invest in one, here’s what really matters when it comes to choosing a trench coat that suits your personal style, colour & proportion preferences and lifestyle ... that you will love for years to come:
Colour:
This isn’t just about what’s “on trend.” – it’s about what works for you and your wardrobe.
Neutrals are classic for a reason—but the right neutral should light you up – not wash you out.
Cooler skin tones shine in …. Soft White, Taupe, Grey, Black
Warmer skin tones glow in Camel, Chocolate Brown, Olive green, French Navy
Want something a little different? Burgundy, Bright Green, Checked or Animal Print … just make sure it speaks to your wardrobe and energy.
Fit: The Feeling of “Just Right”
When you’re shopping for the perfect trench coat, the right fit is everything and it’s about balance – your trench should feel like it was made for you, working for your style and body.
Fit is your foundation - it’s how your trench coat shows up for you.
Fit is the difference between effortlessly chic and accidentally costumey.
It should skim your frame (flattering), not swamp.
Think about how you want to live in it through the seasons - enough room to layer in Autumn/Winter and never losing that sense of ease or keeping it light in Spring.
Your shoulders preference, sleeves hit your wrist, a belt can cinch if you prefer a more defined silhouette or leave undone for the relaxed drape. Have fun styling the sleeves to create proportions that feel truly you.
If you have a longer torso … you’ll look effortlessly polished in a belted style … try tying it to the side for a touch of ease. If you're shorter through the body … leave it open and let something soft and slightly oversized drape beautifully over you.
Petite? Go for cleaner lines and neater shapes … they won’t overwhelm your frame.
And if you're tall … experiment with proportion, volume, and bold silhouettes that make a statement.
You want tailored ease but if you choose oversized make it intentional and relaxed.
Fabric & Drape: It Matters
How it moves matters.
A good trench flows with you, not against you.
Think about what you need it to do—does it need to handle rainy days or something that simply adds a polished layer on your way out of the door?
It should suit not just your style but reflect your lifestyle.
If you're all about ease, comfort and day-to-day wearability, cotton & twill are your go-tos. Cotton gabardine is the gold standard—structured, breathable, water-resistant and hold it’s shape beautifully. But if you're looking for that little moment of polish or luxury, silk, suede or wool can elevate.
Here’s the non-negotiable test:
If the fabric feels stiff, scratchy, clingy, papery, or flimsy—put it back.
You deserve a fabric that feels as good as it looks—like it was made for you.
Because here’s the truth—how a trench feels is just as important as how it looks.
Length: This is personal
Choosing the right trench length is really about tuning into your proportions, your personal style, and the kind of silhouette that you want to create to look to feel amazing in.
It’s not about rigid rules.
If you’re petite, something around the knee or mid-thigh can bring balance.
If you’re tall, full-length can feel effortlessly striking.
Midi lengths tend to be that sweet spot for many—just the right amount of drama without overwhelming.
And before you commit, make sure the length plays nicely with the rest of your wardrobe—think about how it’ll flow with your go-to dresses/skirts, trousers or jeans.
Details: Less is More?
The little details on a trench—like epaulettes, storm flaps, buckles & buttons —aren’t just decoration; they’re a nod to craftsmanship and heritage.
These classic touches can elevate your coat into an investment piece, but it’s all about balance—too many, and it can start to feel overdone or dated.
But when the fabric and lines are simple and clean … the effect is effortlessly modern.
So when you're trying one on, take a moment to notice the trims—do they feel intentional, refined, well-placed, and built to last? Often, it’s the subtle, thoughtful details that make a piece truly stand out.
The Lining Test:
Don’t overlook the inside – a good lining gives structure and helps your trench drape beautifully … makes layering smooth and signals quality.
If you go for a lined trench, choose something breathable like cotton or viscose (skip the synthetics), so it’s comfortable, fresh and works with you through the seasons.
A patterned, coloured or removable lining adds a secret joy each time you slip it on.
Price & Cost Per Wear:
The best trench isn’t always the cheapest—it’s the one you actually wear.
A coat that never leaves the hanger is expensive.
Spend smarter, not cheaper.
If it works with everything … it earns it’s keep and the cost per wear becomes pennies.
Choose once, choose well.
Classic vs. Frankentrench (a new twist)
If you’re building your foundations —start classic.
Always.
It will never fail you or date.
But if your wardrobe already has that base covered, is solid and in great shape? Feel free to play: with colour, texture, cut or try a new twist - cropped, detachable cape, 2-in-1
Keep it personal — just make sure it still feels like you.
Need a little inspiration? I’ve pulled together a carefully curated Trench Coat Edit
Try on a few – how do they feel? Walk around — move in them — how you feel in motion will tell you more than the mirror.
Still need more help finding the one? That makes you feel you—only better … personalised to your colour & proportions preferences, style personality and works with your life ... contact me here
You’re not the problem
You know that one dress hanging quietly in your wardrobe?
The one you almost wear ... but never quite do?
It’s beautiful. It’s your colour. It felt like the right choice when you bought it.
But every time you try it on, you find yourself thinking:
“I just need to lose a bit more weight.”
“It will look better when I’m back to my old size.”
“Soon.”
Let’s pause right there …
What if the issue isn’t your body?
What if the problem is …. the dress?
Clothes are supposed to fit you, not the other way around
As a personal stylist, I hear this all the time:
“Once I lose weight, I’ll finally wear it.” “Once I’m more confident, I’ll invest in better clothes.”
“Once I feel better in my body, I’ll book a styling session.”
But what if we flipped that thinking?
You don’t have to change your body to deserve great clothes / style.
You just need clothes that fit — your style, your proportions, your lifestyle, your now.
Why do we blame ourselves when something doesn’t fit?
Short answer: we’ve been conditioned to.
The industry has long been built around a narrow ideal, inconsistent sizing, and the myth that the “perfect body” is required for beautiful style.
Somehow, when something doesn’t zip or squeeze in the wrong place, we assume we’re the problem.
But let’s be honest — would you blame yourself if a pair of shoes didn’t fit?
No. You would just try a different size.
Same goes for your clothes.
If something makes you feel like a “before” picture, if it whispers someday instead of today, it’s not the right piece and it doesn’t deserve space in your wardrobe or in your head.
Let’s ditch the “Someday” clothes
You deserve a wardrobe that fits the version of you who’s living life now — not the imaginary, future version who’s 10 pounds lighter or more “put together.”
Not every dress is meant to come with emotional baggage.
Some are just… not your match.
And that’s okay.
Let it go.
Make space for the clothes that say:
“You’re ready now.”
“You’re beautiful as you are.”
“Let’s go live your life.”
The right clothes don’t make you smaller — they make you feel seen.
It’s about finding pieces that meet you where you are, and help you feel like you again — comfortable, confident and fully present.
So, if you’ve been waiting for permission to stop trying to fit into clothes that make you feel like a problem…
Here it is.
You’re allowed to let go of the dress that doesn’t fit.
You’re allowed to buy the jeans in the size that actually zips.
You’re allowed to feel good now.
Try it!
Let me know here
Fall back in love with your wardrobe
As a Personal Stylist I help you fall back in love with your wardrobe, make the most of what you already have and shop with more intention.
Shopping with intention saves you energy, time and money as you’re making the most of what you already have whilst introducing new pieces to elevate existing pieces so you can dress more effortlessly.
So how?
You START 'shopping your own wardrobe' ... the problem isn’t that you have nothing to wear but having nothing 'new' to wear and a shopping spree in your own wardrobe might well be the tonic!
So, if you are feeling disillusioned with your wardrobe ...
once a week …
set a date with your wardrobe …
set a 30-minute timer …
(optional – grab your favourite drink, light a candle, music on)
do these 5 things ...
1) Pick a lifestyle category you would like to focus on (Casual, Work, Going Out etc)
2) Separate out into 3 piles …
your favourite pieces to wear (what you love)
pieces you wear all the time (wear on repeat)
pieces you rarely wear but would like to wear more (don't know how to wear)
3) Play dress-up (the fun part with no rules) ... explore and experiment, mixing and matching the pieces from the 3 different piles channelling your style personality
ask yourself 3 questions ...
'Do I feel good in it?'
‘Do I look good in it?'
'Does it feel like me?' (most importantly)
if the answer is yes to all 3 and you find a look you love ...
4) Photograph your outfit in a full-length mirror and add to a new album on your phone titled 'outfits' (you can give them specific lifestyle categories titles such as 'Casual', 'Work', 'Going out' etc ... keep simple)
(optional - if you can, wear 1 new outfit combination immediately as you feel inspired and will be more inclined to shop your own wardrobe again)
5) When choosing the occasion, you're looking to get dressed for refer to your 'outfits' album on your phone and choose an appropriate outfit (optional - in a journal, write down why you chose, like the outfit and how it made you feel - if it made you feel really good, heart the photo)
Try to rotate wearing the outfits in your album so that you are wearing as much as you can from your wardrobe, if you keep skipping outfits you may need to revisit / tweak the combination, or you're missing a particular piece, or it might be time to find a new home.
In one month’s time review your photos and journal ... you will learn so much about yourself and your wardrobe!
Try it!
Tackle one lifestyle category.
Let me know here
Finding your Personal Style
You can’t dress for who you are until you understand who you are.
Not who you are on paper.
The emotional essence / texture of you – the part that feels, moves, dreams and defines.
Because remember … personal style isn’t just about clothes.
It’s about alignment and that begins with language.
Step 1: Life Statements
Think of your “rules to live by” / life statements that guide you.
They don’t have to be profound.
You can keep it simple.
(make a note)
Step 2: The Quotes
What are the quotes that have stayed with you?
The ones you’ve scribbled into journals, pinned on mood boards, or kept in your phone for “those days.”
They matter more than you think.
Quotes are a mirror.
We fall in love with them not just for their words, but for the recognition they spark …
They sound like us. Like who we are. Who we have been. Who we want to be.
Don’t overthink it.
(make a list)
Step 3: Style Words
Now the fun part — this little exercise is like giving your style a voice … the part of you that knows how you want to feel … even if your wardrobe hasn’t quite caught up yet.
Ask yourself:
How do I want to feel in my clothes — not just how I want to look?
How do I want to feel when I walk into a room?
What energy do I want to carry when I’m with friends, at work or just going about my day?
If my style could speak … what would it say about me?
Now, try to capture the feeling / your style essence into words. Don’t overthink — let them come from the heart. Whatever feels like you — not the version you think you should be.
(Optional — try creating a mood board with images, colours, textures or outfits that embody your words. Sometimes what we can’t quite say, we can see)
Step 4: Identify your 3 Power Words
(Reflect on the notes, lists & mood board you have made)
Look for patterns.
Do any words start to repeat themselves—not the exact same ones, but the feeling of them?
What words emerge?
Choose 3 (adjectives) that feel true.
Don’t aim for perfection.
Go for resonance.
These are not boxes to trap you.
These 3 words are the lenses to help you see more clearly and will become your style anchors / compass. When you’re getting dressed, shopping or managing your wardrobe, come back to them — Ask: Does this piece reflect who I really am? Does it support the way I want to feel?
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being intentional.
They’ll help you decide what’s truly you and why.
(These 3 words will explain why some outfits feel like you and why others don’t)
Step 5: Style Through the Lens of You
Once you have your 3 words, everything else starts to shift …
What you invest in: Clothes that reflect your words.
When you wear them: Based on what you need to feel that day.
How you wear them: With intention, because it aligns with your core.
And here’s the freeing part - you’re experimenting so may feel a little off at times.
You’re not building a uniform.
You’re building a language.
The language of you.
Try it!
You might be surprised by what shows up or what you’ve known all along.
I would love to hear your 3 words.
Let me know here
Why Personal Style is about more than just clothes
In this space, I’ll be sharing the style principles that guide me—not to tell you what’s “right” or “wrong,” but to help you get closer to yourself through what you wear. Principles that help me and my clients make more intentional and authentic style choices.
My hope is that they’ll encourage you to reflect on your own style rules and maybe even define a few of your own.
Because style is deeply personal.
We are all beautifully different because we are individuals. And yet, in that difference, we’re the same and we're all just figuring ourselves out.
The idea of “good” vs. “bad” style often ignores the bigger picture—your story.
No one else can fully understand the life experiences, emotions, memories and personal preferences that shape why you wear what you wear.
Whether you reach for that favourite sweater because of the mood, colour, fit, or the way it reminds you of something special—those reasons are yours alone.
Just like you may not know why I chose a bright yellow sweater today, I may not know the reasons behind your choices.
And that’s what makes our personal style so rich—it’s a reflection of who we are on the inside, translated into what we wear on the outside and when it clicks … you dress in a way that feels right, is just for you and there’s a sense of peace.
When you understand the deeper reasons behind your style decisions, it becomes easier to express yourself with confidence.
And the truth: when you feel more like yourself, you naturally look more confident and everything else become simpler. That’s the power of discovering your personal style.
Your wardrobe starts working with you, not against you.
You get dressed with ease.
You walk with more confidence.
You live with more freedom.
So, tell me …
How are you feeling in your style?
What’s working?
What’s feeling off?
I’m here for the real conversations—not perfection.
Let me know here